Parenting is often said to be the hardest job there is.
Before we become parents, we have dreams of what our future family will be like. Often, we feel very competent in our personal and professional lives, and so it can be a complete shock when raising our children seems completely exhausting and challenging. We don’t want to be yelling or getting frustrated on a daily basis, but it can happen.
We are parenting in a very different culture compared to previous generations. Nowadays, it is much more confusing as parents to know, for example, how to set effective limits, how to keep our attachment to our children strong in a technological world and how to encourage a discouraged or misbehaving child.
I’m Sharon Selby, a Registered Clinical Counsellor, with a Master of Arts degree in Counselling Psychology, and it’s my passion to support children, teens and families struggling with anxiety. I love working with children and began my career as a preschool teacher, then an elementary school teacher, and have since been counselling children and families for the last seventeen years. My husband and I are also immersed in our own parenting journey, as we raise our 11-year-old son and 13-year-old daughter.
I have accumulated over 10,000 clinical hours working with children and families experiencing diverse challenges, such as anxiety, and therefore have a broad range of experience, from which to draw upon.
I obtained my Bachelor of Education from McGill University and my Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology from UBC. I have post-graduate training in Art therapy, Play therapy, CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – the “gold standard” for anxiety treatment), DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) as well as being a Certified Adlerian Parenting Facilitator. When providing parenting sessions, I combine Adlerian Parenting theory with Attachment Parenting Theory. I use art and play child-centered therapy to support children in healing and facilitating expression of their problems and emotions.
My private practice is at the ABLE Developmental Clinic in West Vancouver, BC. I work one-on-one and offer groups for children to teach them about anxiety and anxiety management strategies, as well as groups to feel more self-empowered.
For more information about 1:1 counselling, family counselling or parenting, please visit my private practice page. For more information about my groups, please visit my groups page.
Because of my profession and role as a mother, I attend numerous workshops, conferences, and read countless articles and books. Through my work experience and real-life experience, I have become specialized in the area of child and family counselling. I also do a lot of public speaking, including an interview on Breakfast Television Vancouver which is posted below.
The purpose of my parenting blog is to help to decrease the stress in your family life and increase the joy. My goal is to provide you with a resource library that answers all your questions related to the following categories: Anxiety, Attachment, Behaviour, Discipline, Education, Play, Resilience, and Self-Regulation.
As a subscriber to my blog, you will receive one short and informative article per week, highlighting a particular topic related to anxiety and parenting tips.
After having children life became frantically busy. In order for me to continue to be effective and offer quality time to my children, I simplified my life on all levels. One of the things I did, was re-evaluate every mailing list I was on. I am happy to say that SharonSelby.com is the ONLY parenting subscription I kept as it seems to consistently offer me quality information that supports me in raising my kids. The information from Sharon is informative, interesting, useful and from a fresh new perspective; it is also in line with my values. Having read various books on parenting, attended many workshops, and been through several difficult life situations, the same old perspective offered by many other newsletters was not inspiring to me anymore. Each week I look forward to Sharon’s next issue for some new inspiration to take home with me.
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